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Sexual Jargon

This page details alphabetically  some of the sexual terminology you may come across generally, in adult chat rooms or in adult personal ads.

420

refers to marijuana use

AC/DC

Person who enjoys both same sex and opposite sex sexual activity (see BI; BISEXUAL)

ADULT

Euphemism for pornographic.

ALL CULTURES

Person or couple who enjoys all fetishes and sexual activities (see CULTURE)

AMERICAN CULTURE

Man on top, the missionary position.

ANAL SEX

Anal intercourse (see GREEK; GREEK CULTURE)

ANALINGUS

Oral contact or stimulation of the anus of one partner by kissing, licking, or sucking of the other.

ANIMAL TRAINING

Sexual activity with animals, usually dogs and women (see BESTIALITY)

ARTS

Euphemism for fetishes (see CULTURE)

B&D or B/D

Bondage and discipline; use of various methods to restrain someone while administering discipline, usually done by a "master" to his/her "slave". (see BONDAGE; DISCIPLINE; BDSM)

BBW

Big Beautiful Woman; Referring to women that may not be their "ideal" weight, but are comfortable with the size that they are..

BDSM

A combination of three terms: BD (Bondage & Discipline), DS (Dominance & Submission), and SM (Sadism & Masochism). A wide range of sexual activities having to do with power.

BESTIALITY

(see ANIMAL TRAINING)

BI

Bisexual: Versatile (see AC/DC)

BI-CURIOUS

A Male or Female who is interested in trying same-sex activities.

BIZARRE

Unusual sexual desires

BONDAGE

A sexual fetish in which restraints such as ropes, chains, cloth or leather straps are used to bind, tie or hold a participating sexual partner. The person doing the binding is considered "dominant" while the person being bound is considered "submissive."

BUKKAKE

a Japanese sexual term that refers to showering a receiver with sperm from one, several or many men. It is always a sperm shower and, therefore, those on the giving end are always male.

CAN ENTERTAIN

Advertiser willing to invite others to their home for swinging.

CAN TRAVEL

Advertiser willing to travel to your home to swing.

CANING

A spanking fetish employing a light cane usually bamboo or other light wood.

CHEATING

Sexual activity with others without spouse's knowledge and/or consent.

CLEAN

Hygienic; Free of sexually transmitted diseases.

CLOSED DOOR

(see CLOSED SWINGING)

CLOSED SWINGING

Sexual interaction among couples using separate rooms, usually in the same house. Provides a maximum of privacy.

CLOSET SWINGER

A person who hides the fact that he/she is a swinger. (see DISCREET)

COUPLE

In swinging, a man and a woman. May be married, living together (cohabitating), committed (on going relationship) or a single couple dating for swinging purposes.

CPL

(see COUPLE)

CUCKOLD

While the originally meaning is the husband of a wife who cheats, it has come to mean (more often than not) a husband who's wife plays without him and comes home to tell him about it. It can also mean a husband who watches his wife play with others, or is forced to watch. This can also be reversed on the wife. Since different people use the word to mean different things, it is best to ask the people using the word in order to clarify the definition.

CULTURE

Euphemism for Fetish or Arts.

CUNNILINGUS

Stimulation of the vagina and clitoris by the mouth especially the tongue and lips, and sometimes the teeth (see FRENCH CULTURE)

D/D FREE

Drug/Disease Free, meaning that a couple/person is is STD free and does not use drugs.

DILDO

An artificial penis, usually made of rubber or plastic, for sexual stimulation of the vagina and sometimes the anus.

DIRECTOR

The term used to describe the principal person who runs or otherwise operates a swing club, generally the owner. A person who works for the director and is responsible for party or club operation whether or not for pay, is generally called a Manager.

DISCIPLINE

A sexual fetish in which one partner dominates the other, a willing participant. Often includes physical punishment of the submissive partner, ranges from physical restraint to mild spankings to painful beatings.

DISCREET OR DISCRETION

Asking those who write or call to exercise caution so that children or others who may open mail or answer phone will not be offended and/or made aware of the swinging activity.

DOCILE

Willing to receive bondage and/or discipline (see SUBMISSIVE).

DOMESTIC TRAINING

Submissive obedience to household chores of an intimate and humiliating nature.

DOUBLE PENETRATION

Being penetrated in two orifices at the same time (usually refers to anal and vaginal, may also include oral)

DP

Double Penetration

DOMINANT

A sexual partner in control of a willing submissive partner.

ENGLISH CULTURE:

Sexual stimulation from spanking or caning

ENTERTAIN

(see CAN ENTERTAIN)

EUROPEAN STYLE CLUB

One that requires clothing to be removed (sometimes after a certain time of night).

EXHIBITIONIST

Behavior in which an individual experiences sexual arousal or pleasure from displaying his/her body. Enjoys being watched.

F

Female

FELLATIO

Sexual stimulation of the penis by the mouth, especially by the tongue and lips and sometimes teeth.

FETISH

Sexual arousal and pleasure through use of non-sexual objects, actions or non-genital anatomy.

FFM or FMF

Threesome involving two women and one man (see THREESOME)

FLAGELLATION

Sexual stimulation derived from pain, usually whipping or spanking.

FRENCH CULTURE:

Oral-genital sexual activity (see FALLATIO; CUNNILINGUS)

FULL SWAP

Two couples exchanging partners for sexual intercourse (see SOFT SWAP)

FUN AND GAMES

Euphemism for sexual activity.

GAY

A homosexual person, male or female. A gay female may also be called a Lesbian.

GBM

Gay Black Male

GENEROUS

Refers to money for sex.

GOLDEN SHOWER

Refers to urine play (see WATERSPORTS)

GREEK CULTURE:

Anal-penile intercourse

GROUP ROOM

Room set aside for group sex, generally furnished with wall-to-wall mattresses or pads. Term is prevalent in western US (see MATROOM).

GROUP SEX

Swinging; Sexual activity between three or more people.

GWM

Gay White Male

HARD CORE

A swing party or swing engagement where sexual interaction is assumed and expected.

HARD SWINGING

(see HARD CORE)

HEAD

Oral-genital sexual activity; "Giving head" (see FRENCH CULTURE; FALLATIO; CUNNILINGUS)

HEDONIST

Someone who lives for pleasure.

HETEROSEXUAL

Sexual attraction to members of the opposite sex.

HOMOSEXUAL

Sexual attraction to members of the same sex. (See GAY)

HORNY

Sexually tense; In need of sexual pleasure.

HUNG

Refers to a man with a large penis.

HWP

Height-Weight Proportionate; Someone who is at their ideal body weight.

INDOOR

Swinging activities in general

INDOOR SPORTS

(See INDOOR)

INTERESTED IN FRIENDSHIP

Seeks a swinging relationship that includes emotional and recreational values.

IR

Interracial

IRL

In Real Life; Used in ads or online chat

ISO

In Search Of; Used in ads; MWC ISO Single Female

LEATHER

A fetish; Sexual stimulation through the wearing or touching of leather or leather garments.

LESBIAN

A woman sexually and emotionally attracted to other women. (see GAY; HOMOSEXUAL)

LTR

Long Term Relationship

M

Male

MARITAL AIDS

Dildos, vibrators, and other devices used for sexual pleasure of self and others.

MASOCHISM

Sexual gratification through receiving pain and humiliation from others.

MASTER/SLAVE

Participants in a bondage and discipline sexual relationship. (see B&D; BONDAGE; DISCIPLINE; BDSM)

MATROOM /MATTRESS ROOM

Room set aside for group sex. Principally an eastern US term (see GROUP ROOM).

MBC

Married Black Couple

MBiC

Married Bisexual Couple

MEET FOR PLEASURE

Will meet for swinging sex; no pretense for social or emotional interaction not directly related to sexual activity.

MENAGE A TROIS

Three people, two of one sex, one of the opposite sex in a swinging interaction. (see THREESOME, TRIAD)

MFM or MMF

Threesome involving two men and one woman (see THREESOME)

MORESOMES

More than three people in a swinging interaction. (see GROUP SEX)

MWC

Married White Couple

NASCA

The North American Swing Club Association. An association of swing clubs and magazines to promote swinging as the viable and beneficial lifestyle it has become. Levels of members: Affiliate Club, General, Associate and Institutional for swing clubs and magazines, general swinging community, media and institutions of learning and research.

NEWCOMERS

New people in swinging; First-timers.

NONSMOKER

Does not smoke. If used in personal ad means only those who do not smoke are sought for swinging purposes.

OFF-PREMISE

No swinging takes place at the club or party; you meet and make your own arrangements. Great for newcomers.

ON-PREMISE

A club where sexual play is allowed. Private and Public rooms are usually provided for play.

OPEN DOOR

(see OPEN SWINGING)

OPEN RELATIONSHIP

A relationship in which participants are free to take other partners; may or may not be a polyamorous couple; may or may not be a swinging couple. If the couple is married they may describe themselves as having an open marriage.

OPEN SWINGING

A couple swinging with another couple in the same room; Several or all participating couples together in the same room. A minimum of privacy.

ORAL-GENITAL

(see FRENCH; CUNNILINGUS; FELLATIO; HEAD)

ORGY

Sexual interaction among several men and women in the same room; Complete absence of inhibition in everyone taking part; group sex.

PARTY

Gathering of three or more people of both sexes for swinging.

PARTY CLOTHES

Clothing particularly adapted for swing party wear, Includes wear to the party and wear to change into during the party. The latter includes robes, lingerie, terry cloth wrap-arounds and other simple wear that is easily removed, shows the wearer to best advantage and often makes selected parts of the body easily available for erotic courting and play.

PARTY HOUSE (Western US)

A non-membership swing club offering a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties.

PASSIVE

Quiet, submissive non-contributor, willing to receive corrective training. Docile and submissive in swinging. (see DISCIPLINE)

PHOTO

Interested in exchange of nude or sexually explicit photos of self with similar photos of others.

PHOTOGRAPHY

Interested in exchange and/or making of nude or sexually explicit photographs, color slides or movies with similar photographs, slides or movies of others; interested in meeting with others for the making of these photographs.

POLYAMORY

A love relationship involving more than 2 people.

P/P

Photo and phone number (used in personal ads).

PRO

Professional; i.e. prostitutes or paid escorts.

RECREATIONAL SWINGER

A person who practices swinging primary as a recreational diversion; not interested in forming any long term friendship or emotional attachment.

RESTRAINT

Mild bondage used in sexual fantasy enactments.

ROMAN

Group sex, orgies, the party scene, etc (see ROMAN CULTURE)

ROMAN CULTURE:

Sexual orgies

RUBBER

Condom means of contraception; sexual stimulation through the look, feel and smell of rubber, usually associated with B&D.

SAFE

Used to describe a person who cannot conceive or impregnate; a man who has had a vasectomy; Naturally or surgically sterile.

S.A.S.E.

Self-addressed stamped envelope.

SBF

Single Black Female

SBiF

Single Bisexual Female

SBM

Single Black Male

SGL

Single(see SINGLE)

S&M or S/M

Sadism and Masochism (see SADISM; MASOCHISM; BDSM)

SCAT

refers to the use of excrament/fecal matter.

SINGLE

A swinger without a partner, does not refer to marital status.

SOCIAL

A party, dance or other gathering usually sponsored by a swing club or magazine, for swingers to meet and socialize. There is no swinging at a social, but privately arranged swinging may follow a social.

SOCIAL SWING CLUB

A swing club, generally private membership that offers social and swinging activities including a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties. They may also offer educational and travel activities. Usually there is a membership fee and either party fees, party donations or a regular maintenance fee or dues. Party attendance may be restricted to couples though the marital status of the couple is rarely important.

SODOMY

Non-coital, especially anal or oral, copulation with either an opposite sex or same sex partner.

SOFT SWINGERS

Couples who only have intercourse with their own partner. No swapping for intercourse.

SOFT SWAP

Two couples exchanging partners for certain types of sexual activity (defined by the couples involved); if intercourse takes place it is only between primary partners (see FULL SWAP)

SOFT SWINGING

The term used to describe same-room sex, watching/being watched, or any sexual encounter up to, but not including intercourse, with someone other than your spouse. The first experience for many couples some type of soft-swinging. (see HARD SWINGING, HARD CORE).

SRS

Same Room Sex (see SOFT SWINGING).

STD

Sexually Transmitted Disease. A term developed in the late 1970's to replace VD as the latter carried social and moral implications in the minds of many. These social and moral implications interfered with the legitimate treatment of sexually transmitted diseases as a medical problem.

STR or STR8

straight(see STRAIGHT)

STRAIGHT

Any person who is not interested in engaging in homosexual activity or A person who does not use drugs; also used by swingers to denote non-swinging people.

SUBMISSIVE

Passive, wishes to be dominated (see Passive)

SWAPPING

Two couples exchanging partners for sexual activity. (see SOFT SWAP; FULL SWAP)

SWEDISH CULTURE:

Use of the hands especially in massage to sexually stimulate another

SWF

Single White Female

SWM

Single White Male

SWING MAGAZINE

A periodical catering to the swinging community. Usually carries personal ads of people wishing to meet others for swinging purposes. May also publish articles of general interest to the swinging community.

SWINGING

An alternative lifestyle for consenting adults who enjoy social, recreational sexual activities with others, most often on a couple-to-couple basis, with full knowledge and mutual consent of both partners; single men and women are sometimes involved.

SWINGING LIFESTYLE

Style of living with swinging a major component in recreation, choice of friends, business and social life, and intimate relationships.

SWINGING MARRIAGE

Marriage incorporating swinging and often, humanistic ideals.

SWM

Single White Male

TAN

Tested Antibody Negative for HIV virus(AIDS)

THREESOME

Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a swinging encounter. (see Menage a Trois)

TICKET

A person, usually a woman, brought to a swing party solely to enable the male to gain entrance. The ticket generally has no intention to swing or is not free to swing.

TOYS

Sexual aids (see MARITAL AIDS)

TRANSGENDERED

Individual who does not identify with his/her biologically assigned sex. Not related to sexual orientation.

TRANSSEXUAL

Individual who has undergone conversion from one gender to another through surgery and hormone treatments; or one who is in the process of gender conversion

TRANSVESTITE

A person who receives sexual gratification by wearing clothes identified with the opposite sex; not necessarily homosexual.

TRAVEL

(see CAN TRAVEL)

TRIAD

Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a continuing relationship of emotional and sexual involvement. Not the same as a threesome.

TRIOLISM

Used in personal ads to indicate desire for "threesomes". This is a common but confusing usage (see TRIAD)

TUBAL LIGATION

Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the fallopian tubes to make a woman infertile. Also called a Band Aid Operation in reference to the small incision made just below the navel to enable the cutting and ligation.

UTOPIAN SWINGER

A person who practices swinging as a total lifestyle with humanistic ideals.

VANILLA

Typically refers to non-swingers (ie. "vanilla friends")

VASECTOMY

Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the vas deferens to artificially sterilize a male.

VERSATILE

Bisexual. (see AC/DC)

VIBRATOR

Electrically run vibrating device for stimulation of the vagina by insertion or holding to outer lips, clitoris, breasts and the male penis. Some vibrators are penile shaped and are run by batteries while more expensive ones are for surface use and are run by an AC motor from a typical wall outlet. Vibrators are used by both men and women for self-stimulation and to sexually please another.

VOLUPTUOUS

Fullness of beauty and form; usually used to refer to a woman with large well-formed breasts; may also refer to full but well formed hips.

VOYEUR

A person who enjoys watching others in sexual acts.

VOYEURISM

Sexual gratification by watching or peeping at others engaged in sexual activity.

WATERSPORTS

Typically refers to urine play.(see GOLDEN SHOWER)

WAY-OUTS/ WEIRDOS

Those people interested in activities usually considered by the majority to be bizarre, kinky, unusual, or unconventional.